Uncertain bride Jessica Alba

Feb 7, 2010, 6:03 GMT

Jessica Alba hated the idea of getting married.

The 'Valentine's Day' star took a while before agreeing to tie the knot with Cash Warren as she was determined not to "obey" her husband and feels the tradition of marriage has been "warped".

Jessica - who has a 19-month-old daughter, Honor Marie, with Cash - said: "I had a hard time agreeing with marriage at all because I feel like its been warped. Originally, it was two families coming together to make a stronger family. It was about survival - not love or soulmates. And now the way they market marriage - even as a kid through Disney movies - is that it's all about Prince Charming sweeping you off your feet.

"There's this mentality that you need the big dress and the big day - the day every girl gets to be a princess. I didn't agree with any of that. This tradition of obeying your husband like he's your king? It's a load of crap. Love and honour, yes. But you should love and honour yourself too, and all your friends."

The 28-year-old actress - who married Cash in May 2008 - eventually accepted his proposal because she knew they would stick together through "thick and thin".

She told Cosmopolitan magazine: "I chose to get married because, essentially, you're given a deck of cards in life. The hand you were dealt with is your family and you can't choose them. But the one person you can choose to bring into your life as your family and to have that unconditional love with is your husband and wife. I'm choosing you as my family and we're going to love each other through thick and thin."