By April MacIntyre Feb 8, 2009, 22:35 GMT
Dita Von Teese says her divorce with Marilyn Manson put her off sex for a year.
10/20/2008 - Dita Von Teese - Grand Opening of Catherine Malandrino Maison - Catherine Malandrino Maison - West Hollywood, CA USA © Chris Hatcher / PR Photos
The American burlesque dancer born Heather Sweet gave an in-depth interview to Fabulousmag.com and shared her emotional grieving process after her marriage to the Goth rocker collapsed.
In the interview, she reveals some of her tips for looking good, including Pilates, ballet and always having a corset and red lipstick at the ready. She also does not find having threesomes a very good idea anymore.
"When I was younger I used to think I'd be the best girlfriend I could and invite a female friend for a threesome, but it always backfired. I'd suggest thinking about other ways to make sex exciting. And remember, it's OK to keep some fantasies as just that."
Teese told the News of the World celebrity magazine that the idea of "sexy" means something different for everyone. "A lot of people confuse the idea of being sexy with an image of how they think they should look. There's no one way to be sexy. I feel most sexy in stockings, garters and gorgeous lingerie, but that's not because I think men will like it - it's what I like. Everyone is different, so work out what makes you feel most sexy and go with it. Variety is the spice of life."
Teese elaborated: "Normal or conventional sex can be just as good as adventurous sex. You should never feel like you are under pressure to perform. When someone's trying to impress you, it doesn't work. It's better to let one thing lead to another naturally, so you're more relaxed."
The dancer praised the power of proper lighting. "It's totally essential. To look your best you have to have good lighting. Fix a dimmer switch in the bedroom and play with the settings. I have dimmers in all my rooms."
A good tip for making a man remember you? Teese reveals: "When a man pictures his woman in his head he'll always remember when she's laughing and smiling, not necessarily when she's trying her hardest to look sexy. If you feel happy and comfortable, then you're more likely to feel sexy - even if it's in your skinny jeans and boots, or short skirt. Just let yourself go."
In a not-so-subtle dig at Evan Rachel Woods, who it was rumored to have wedged between her and Marilyn firmly pre-divorce, Teese gave her opinion to NOTW magazine Fabulousmag.com about the different kinds of women out there.
"There are two types of women - those who prey on taken men, and those who don't. The first group are not sexy because they don't have any confidence or self-esteem. I love men but I'm a girl's girl, which may be one reason Jennifer Lopez asked me to perform for her husband, Marc Anthony, and why the singer Fergie booked me for her husband's stag party. They know they can trust me. There's nothing sexy about hitting on another woman's man, it's just mean-spirited."
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