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Peter C. Lomtevas, Esq., P.C. specializes in neutralizing high conflict divorces and responding to and snuffing out parental alienation. Note: post judgment divorce fraud is on the rise and a litigant has to be prepared for it. Watch out.
I've had my ex try to alientate me from my kids and guess what? Never, ever, EVER have I, would I, or could I say such things to a child.
'Ooooo she did this... Ooooo she did that'
Your the adult 'fat boy'. It's that simple. Act like one.
I am a parent of an 8 year old boy. It makes me absolutely sick how soft parents are on their children. We're raising a generation of kitty cats who won't be able to deal with real life. I think Alec Baldwin was just being absolutely ruthlessly real. To call a kid a thoughtless little pig is probably apropriate sometimes. I make no apology and I don't think Alec should have to either.
I'm not saying it's a constant thing, but if your kid is being a thoughtless little pig there is no reason you shouldn't tell them. After a certain point, you should criticize your child when it's necessary. I applaud every parent every time I see them acknowledge when their child is a brat and when I see them take them down a notch.
All the panzy doo-gooder lilly livered psychologists can take a hike as far as I am concerned. Unless there is a real problem with the child which warrants your being careful with them, you should always be honest and real with them. If you don't know where that line is with your own child you're not paying attention. To pass judgement on someone you don't know like Alec Baldwin is plain stupid.
I love my kids. But if you cheat on me, if you lie to me then I just leave you and start again. Another happy family, hopefully with one who is an equal partner. I'm a DeadBeat dad as you paint me. I don't pigeon hole you and thats why my kids love me, and your lifeless soul sits alone abandoned, bitter twisted. Happily yours :) DeadBeat Dad!
It makes perfect sense to say that no matter how badly he was treated, he should have never have lost his cool, nor talked to his daughter in that way. But the basic truth of it is, by removing the parental rights of ANY parent (unless they are physically abusive) only hurts the children. So, the divorce hurt his daughter. His controlling ex-wife hurt his daughter. His tirade and poor use of words hurt his daughter. And now the court has hurt his daughter. Everyone (Alec himself, his ex-wife AND the courts) have all contributed to degrading the quality of life for his daughter. How terribly unfortunate the world has become for the children of our future. Two wrongs don't make a right, nor does three wrongs, court-ordered or not. In one aspect, it is self-centered of him to write a book because he is not the 'spokesperson' for all of father-kind, but if EVERYONE were to avoid being self-centered and would avoid writing a book, then the secrets of how this world is truly corrupting children would remain hidden. It is about time someone with a high-profile write a book to hopefully open the world's eyes. Hopefully his book is less about ALEC and more about Parental Alienation happening all around the world.
Go get em Alec! Just because a guy bails on his kids to go hook up with some wildebeast doesn't mean he should have to shell out cashola for the rest of his days.
While media is feeding off of Alec's voicemail, which I believe are the words of a grieving father. This incident is a testimony of his deep and profound love for his children. Mothers often try to alienate children from father after divorce, and the results are always destruction of children's happiness. I hope courts will see through her the dirty tricks Kim is playing.
i went through the same thing. it's like the mother gets to teach her how to be rude and selfish.just to pay you back for her own selfish motives good luck this will come back on her but thats a sad thing too sorry hang in thereI
Yes parental alienation is skulduggery caused by vindictive mothers . Men are angered by this and fall into the trap . They are then further alienated from their children because the mothers use this as a weapon . My ex wife actually stated ' You will never have your children because i will do everything to keep you from them because i know you love them . ' My children finally came to see their mother as using them as a tool of revenge .
I agree with Mike Ellis in his comment, I have been taken by a parent who for over 13 years was not allowed to see my child while the courts stood still. Not all men are in the wrong and with the current system and thinking by the courts and may I add male judges also man has little or no relief from the system. The system needs an overhaul and fast as it is distroying many lives and creating unstable male parents because of the outside pressures
To Brainwashed Betty and all the other women that 'think' they know whats going on.
Nearly 1/3 of 'deadbeat dads' are women.
I know as along with many other dads the entire custody situation is
controlled and manipulated by women. In my case not a single person was male.
It appears they use it as tool get back at men. Why is that in the last decade more and more men are getting custody. Because of male judges and lawyers that have had sons's go though a divorce and saw how his son was stripped of all he had left by a runaway corrupt family court system. And the wifes dream of getting rich off the husband and food stamps, rent etc.
Because the courts have learned not to believe all the false accusations made
by women. In my case, my wife was found to have a serious mental illness and for 6 months I went though pain and agony of great magnitute. My children insisted
they wanted to be with me, but they tried to keep them with my wife.
I had my children for a while until my wife kidnapped them from my family.
They still believed her, until she was charged with felony child endangerment. CPS 's comment on that was 'We have to wait for something bad to happen before we can take action.
So CPS ignores the word 'protection' and waits until the children are harmed.
The system is broken. Ask any lawyer.
Money does not replace a father. Step fathers or mom's revolving door of boyfriends does far more harm to children than thier own father ever will.
Child protective services is more like the Gestapo. You your family have no rights to records are kept private. It could be full of false information and there's no way for ANYBODY to know. The media, family, nobody can look at the records and find the truth. My mother cheated on my father and she got custody. If I had the statisics, I bet most marrages fail because the woman was mentally unstable or a cheater. Oh and by the way Betty. Your tax dollars support many children even when Dad pays his child support. And of course mom never reports the money her boyfriends give her to social services for her food stamps and rent. So your calling Alec Baldwin a 'deadbeat dad'? He pays his support. He's angry because he can't be a father with a weekend vist and many times mom and the child 'dissapear' on those visit weekends and the courts do nothing about it. But trouble breaks loose if dad miss's a visit for reasons beyond his control.
It's his mentally unstable ex-wife that has the problem. I suspect soon the majority of children will go to the father because it shows more each day how mentally unstable women are. just look at federal housing with all those single mom's and drugs, violence and truamatized children. The courts and social workers just love to press mens buttons until they can no longer 'take the abuse' from the courts etc. Then they can say 'See how awful he is!'
I went though this. The Jerry Springer mentality of the women is unacceptable to millions of people. Men and women.
If I had the means I would do anything I could to put an end to the 'mother' only custody policy. Every day I read in the paper about some single mom and her children are abused by her new husband or mulitple boyfriends. And the courts do nothing. HA but, let dad miss a child support payment because he's undergoing cancer treatment and he ends up in jail. I know I speak for many men in this country and on this board. It's time for a change. I'll be writting a letter to Alec asking him to do allot more than just right a book. I could write a book too about what happened to my children. Child protective services and family courts use the same tactic's as the gestapo. Can anybody here think of another government agency that keeps everything secret when it comes to YOUR family? Does that sound american to you?
Anybody out there that would like to get the ball rolling on reform can email me at outofphase180@yahoo.com all threats and intimidating email will be forwarded to the the FBI's internet crimes unit. Lets change things men. There are million of us out there that can't bring up our children in a way that's what the children want. WE have to stick together and get the system changed.
NOW!
By The way if you read most of the comments.
You can see/hear the anger in the posts made by women.
And it's the men they blame for being angry?
You can also see the ones made by social worker types.
One said 'he should never see his daughter again for calling her a pig'
This is the type of person that wants new laws for putting people in jail for parking tickets, Until it happens to them.
I suppose this woman is perfect? There is no such thing as a perfect person.
The stress of a non cooperating ex-spouse is enough to drive the most well put together man to not think rational. Because the courts don't think rationally.
Seems women are obsessed with words being said instead of the actions made by mothers of denying visits (court ordered ) and nothing happens to them.
But let dad be late for a visit, she doesn't get her payment because the state
never mailed it. Do you think the child support payment government office will ever admit to this. I know somebody that just had his bank account seized due to an error. No matter what he did nobody would look into it. The wife had lied to the child support agency. Did anything happen to her? NO it's called perjury.
He won't see his momey for months, if ever. The sad part is not a single male
at the agency was avalable to correct the error and he just got hung up on.
Discrimination in hiring. For sure. I thought that was againest federal law?
For all men facing a divorce. Take the kids to another state and make her fight for them there. YOUR home town is the best place to be with your children.
Good luck and sympathy to all the MEN out there fighing a menatlly ill female and the female controlled courts. I can't wait to see all the angry emails I get from women. I'll be happy to post them and see the ratio of angry to rational emails. I hope some grandmothers and mother's of son's that got abused by the courts email me. Then the angry women can see for themselves how insane they sound. Yes I love women. But finding one with her head put together is hard to find.
I'm going to set up a web page and post the URL here when I get a name. Feel free to make suggestions for a domain name. outofphase180@yahoo.com
Wow, Now I have to agree with tonny from belgium, The reason no men want to become married anymore, too expensive, need to do away with no fault divorce, And the child support figures are outrageous, Most spend this support on other stuff, no accountability, if your a loser they cant get money out of youjust take your driver lic away and these same women that moan about support when things turn around, because alot of kids change parents around 12 or 13, they wont come up with even a quarter.
Will all this hatred and anger get anyone anywhere? Does anyone take the time to figure out how they got where they are in the first place?
I am writing this to you after seeing the interview with Alec Baldwin. I wanted to let you know that I was trying to send an email but it wouldn’t go thru.(to Barbara Walters this letter went)
I am a victim of parent alienation as well.
This is a big problem!!!
I have been divorced since 1994 with 2 children. I have just like
Alec, joint legal custody, (doesn’t really matter). I have not seen my children since 2001. I can understand his frustration, I am there as well. I am in a situation that I cannot deal with any longer.
I am being railroaded by my ex husband. This is the only way left
for him to hurt me. This is going to shock you why this battle started with him again, was because I wanted to go to my daughters high school graduation. My mother went ahead and sent a letter to her High School because sending stuff in the mail doesn’t get to them. Calling doesn’t get anywhere, the adults in the home actually hang up on you. Screen names have been blocked. So the school actually gave her the letter. And then this war started again.
Actually, he is only hurting our children in the long run. This situation also affects my parents, they haven’t been able to see their grandchildren. I am also fortunate to have my grandparents alive, and they have not been able to see their great- grandchildren. And these two children have been deprived from these relationships as well. How may children have great grandparents around…..not too many. I could really relate to something Alec said. He said he talks to men and they said they have gone ahead and remarried and have started new families and basically have written the first children off. This is not just for men!
I am the mother of 2 children and I am right there!!!! I am not a man, I am a MOTHER, I have carried these two children for 9 months and given birth to them and I am at that same point!!!!!!!!
This court system is a joke, nothing ever gets straightened out,
no one really CARES!!! They say they want to do what is in the best interest of the children, well that is crap! The lawyers just want to make money. I am totally broke, I cannot pay an attorney. The last one my mother gave me $5,000. retainer and nothing got done either. Now, I have to go back on 6/15/07 to Staten Island Family Court. If I don’t pay $6000. they will put me in jail. I currently reside in Florida, and the state of Florida is enforcing the original court order from 2001, so now I have two states coming after me for the same time period and no one cares, no one will help me and it just keeps going around in circles. I have contact legal aid here in Florida, they haven’t been able to help. I have contacted legal aid in NY, that doesn’t work either. There has to be something here, how can you have two states enforcing two different court orders for the same children for the same time period. This is nuts!!!
I do not have the money, I cannot pay my property taxes, there will be a tax sale on my home. I don’t have any Health Insurance, not 401K, or any retirement. My Ex husband has it all, and I must pay him. I am being totally railroaded!!! I don’t know what my 11 yr old is going to do with HIS mother being in jail. This system is so
messed up, I don’t know where else to turn! PLEASE HELP!!!!
One parent uses these children to hurt the other. And that is
the bottom line! If there is anything I can do to help with Alec’s
mission to get something changed please contact me.
I can be reached anytime at MJB22A@aol.com
I have suffered from this abusive man for long enough! I have grown a lot. I have gotten past the physical abuse, but the mental abuse is still going on. I have to go on line and see if I can find pictures that my daughter posts on her website to see what my children look like. This type of behavior needs to be stopped and I really feel I am strong enough to help in this fight!!!
Today is my 41st birthday, and I am making a promise to myself to use everything I have to stop this. I need to be pointed in the right direction and I know you and your associates are just the right people to do that.
I apologize if this letter is a bit ranting, but I have so much information on this subject, I really don’t know what to say first.
I don’t know what will get some ones attention, either for a story or for someone to see that this is not about deadbeat parents!!!!!
It’s not that at all!!! and these stereotypes need to be put to bed.
I am not an unfit mother, I am not a drug addict, I don’t have any type of incapable parenting skills. I am Class mom for my sons class. I bring my son to Karate Daily, I work full time. I go on Field Trips, I volunteer with my Church. I am a good person! It’s a head game played by the custodial parent and the court system just helps them do it!
The real problem needs to be addressed, and the true violators be held accountable for their part in this. And allow these children to know they have two parents that love and care and want to be in their life, but have not been permitted. This is a terrible game to put on these kids!
Also I want to thank you in advance for your help in this matter.
So if there is anyone out there that can help in this situation please email.
And for everyone pointing fingers, you cannot say anything unless you are in the situtation, because you have no clue!!!!!!!!!
This is crazy there are 16 pages of comments (so far) about how Alec Baldwin threatened, cursed, quilted, and belittled his child. Most of you jumping to conclusions and accusing his Ex-wife as well as his child of being the cause of his actions. He is a grown man; know one can MAKE you feel anything unless you let them.
I am sorry that most of you feel that the family court has not been fair to your case, I don't know what state each of you live in but in most states if you have your paperwork and it says that you have visitation on certain days, and the other parent does not allow it, you need to call the police (with your paperwork in hand) because they will intervene. I know parents that have been taken to jail on the spot.
I work as a family consoler for the courts and my job is to work with the individual family members, hear each person’s perspective and one thing I am always surprised to see is that most (not all) non-custodial parents are very angry about having to pay support to the other parent, for some reason they feel they are just giving money to their Ex., without realizing that just like your taxes, all of it is figured on a scale, not because the judge or court likes or dislikes you. I have seen custodial parents be told that if they choose not to work full time, or even, at all, the court will factor their income at being at least the minimum wage for 40 hrs per week because they are capable of earning it. All assets are liquidated on paper and then split 50/50 so in one way or another you were compensated on your way out of that marriage.
The court doesn't care who cheated on whom, or what tone the other used with you on the phone, they care about your children. Your 'feelings' are not what you are in court for, you're there for your children and what is best for them. Keep a diary of your efforts to document what is going on and try to keep it based on fact. I know people that have gone as far as to set up an E-mail account just for correspondence with the other parent because they cannot communicate without fighting.
The anger and resentment that I have seen here would be put to better use if people worked together to change the system, rather than sit on an Entertainment website complaining about it.
'Enough already' has it right - hope people pay attention. There doesn't need to be more hate and crudeness back and forth - what does it solve? If you don't think you are treated fairly - hang in there for the children's sake. It will pay off in the end.
This is in response to Betty's thoroughly uneducated and immature remark. Many women in this country wish their ex husbands would take an interest in the childen they reared, but are deadbeats. However, there just as many women who think a divorce gives them some God given right to alienate children from their fathers. They will move, they will call Child Protective Services falsley, they will act scared, etc..... The real actors in this world are these scorned divorced women who put on a show to remove the father from the childrens lives and cause depression for both the children and the father until someone cracks and then she can say 'I told you so'....People should visit a family law court once in a while and they will understand a lot more about PARENTAL ALIENATION.
Has anyone else every noticed the proclivity of a state employees need to espouse their new age religious beliefs in all that they have to say, about ANY subject involving humans? Why does this type culture exist in government? Why does it bother them that there are 16 pages of comments here? Most of which express empathy about the abuse of women and the state. Probably because they can't control what people say or feel. No doubt it offends their existence as a needed value to the taxpayer? Or reveals too much of its flaws and lack of effectiveness? After all employees are just following more state and collegiate theory in their processes, it 'SHOULD,' be correct and justifiable, even if it isn't. Still more obvious is that what people have said here have struck a deep chord somewhere, that this person automatically rejects it's validity, not only here, but no doubt each and every day in their miserable vocation trying to play god. Failing to see their own responsibility in all the trouble and suppressing that which they do sense, everyone else is automatically wrong. Their performance depends on it. Then they go on to insult everyone by saying 'change it if you don't like it.' Even as people use this forum to attempt to do just that. Mockery is what it is. Born out of a supposed illusion of superiority.
It appears to me Alex Baldwin has an anger problem. He is writing a book because he was use to getting his way, but blames Kim for his daughter's alienation. Children tend to push their parents buttons, I understand that. If the court allows Kim to keep Ireland from seeing her dad. The book should be about Injustice Court System. We dont know the whole story and maybe Kim is doing the right thing because she knows Alex's bad temper. Kim maybe afraid of Alex. Kim is not the law, so there must be a reason why the court continues to allow Alex not to see Ireland on regular visitation. I believe we are just hearing Alex's Baldwin side. I wouldn't want to visit an angry Dad. If Ireland and Alex were close, Ireland would be excited to wait for her dad's phone call. I bet if Alex was such a loving father, Ireland would be calling him daily instead of schedule times. Appears to me, she wants nothing to do with him. She is 11 years old and will be an adult before you know it. If Alex writes a book, I wont waste my money on his sob story of dad alienation, becauses its not Kim, its the justice system he should be angry at. The court probably agrees with Kim because Alex isn't a good role model for a father. If Alex didn't want public opinion, he shouldn't be writing a sob story book. The only person I see keeping this private is Kim. I believe her mother instint is telling her to PROTECT ireland from publicity and probably from Alex too.
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