Every now and again a book crosses my desk that I wished I had when I was approaching middle school.
In the 1970s, I grew up on a remote town north of Boston that was tenuously connected to Lynn and Swampscott by a narrow two mile long causeway. Winter was long and there was no Internet shopping, no shopping malls near me and makeup and accessories were far and few between. Clothes came from a black and white Sears catalog at the beginning of the school year, and they had to make do until summer.
My mother is one of those women who still operates on a need to know basis and is not very loquacious or sharing when it comes to girl stuff. I never had a proper hair cut in a salon until I was 13 years old. It was a move to Texas during my teen years that immersed me in the world of makeup and hair while I was in high school, and I was a quick learner. My very first job was at a makeup counter at a department store, and I taught my own mother how to apply product and how to use creams and all the potions.
There is a new book for curious ‘tween girls titled “Bonding Over Beauty” that will help clueless moms like my own who don’t know where to begin in schooling a young lass on how to gracefully learn the ways of womanhood.
This book is a conversation starters and a great tool to enable moms to educate and empower their daughters to make positive choices. While on the surface this looks like a book about beauty, it is actually about moms being able to teach their daughters the most important lesson of all: beauty truly comes from within, and from preserving health.
Author Erika Katz teaches moms how to talk to their daughters about all things beauty, hygiene, and the dramatic changes in puberty. As a beauty expert and mother of a ‘tween girl, Erika wrote the book to help moms establish trust with their daughters, while building and reinforcing the self-confidence every ‘tween girl needs—at a time when she needs it most. Included are fun, bonding activities to ease the awkwardness between mom and daughter when discussing sensitive topics such as when she can wear makeup or shave her legs.
“One of the most important jobs a mother has is to build up her daughter’s self-esteem while being empathetic to the normal insecurities every young girl faces,” said Erika Katz. “If you can get your daughter to talk to you openly and honestly during the ‘tween years about uncomfortable subjects such as puberty, she is more likely to come to you later when she is concerned about boys, sex, drugs, and alcohol.”
This Mother-Daughter Beauty Guide is a great step by step resource for moms of ‘tween girls, offering answers to their daughter’s beauty and hygiene concerns. Bonding Over Beauty gives moms all the information they need and teaches them how to broach delicate subjects and give great advice on how to manage a grooming and maintenance regimen that will serve a young woman well for the rest of her life.
Erica says, “I attended a Parents in Action meeting and moms of tweens were talking about how their daughters were already starting puberty. Some moms were unsure if they should give their girls deodorant or let them shave their legs. With girls going through puberty younger than ever before I realized moms needed to know how to tackle the most basic beauty and hygiene issues with girls who were still sleeping with their stuffed animals. As a child actress and model, I had to tackle puberty in front of the eyes of the public, and my mom sometimes didn’t know the best products or methods to deal with the problems I was facing. Luckily, I had experts all around me to ask for advice, and so I used that experience to create first a blog for mothers of ‘tween girls, and now this book which is intended to help mothers guide their daughters through this very crucial time in their lives.”
Myths are debunked in her book. “The most common myths I hear all the time are: If you shave unwanted facial hair off it will come back like a man’s beard, young girls can’t use tampons, expensive hair treatments will actually fix split ends, and my favorite- you have to spend a lot to look and feel beautiful. The list goes on!”
The biggest lesson she imparts is one of an open door policy of communication. “By taking an interest in your daughter and the woman she is becoming, you will foster your daughter’s trust and confidence in you and build a relationship that will last a lifetime,” says Erica.
The book is filled with useful recipes for creating inexpensive, at-home facials, body scrubs, acne remedies and more, using ingredients found in the kitchen.
There is Comprehensive advice to choose the appropriate method of hair removal for a ‘tweens developing body and tips for moms and daughters to improve their nutrition and physical fitness together and also keep up healthy eating habits outside the home.
The more delicate subjects are handled, The book has ideas for moms to broach the subject of menstruation with their daughters who are going through puberty at a younger age than the previous generation. Moms get practical advice to teach family members how to behave around a sensitive prepubescent ‘tween girl.
For more information, please visit www.BondingOverBeauty.comNote the date on this article may be incorrect due to importing it from our old system.